I heard or read someone not long ago saying that one needs to be flexible with one’s own identity– because they can come and go.
So I’ve been inspired to lose more weight and get back to the shape I was in back in 2016. I’m not very fat right now, for which I’ve learned to be thankful. That is, instead of just being dissatisfied with my appearance, I’ve learned to be thankful for what I have been able to maintain to date. It’s been a lot of work and effort.
But along with “getting in shape again,” I’m trying to actually change my identity this time. Let me explain:
When I got way in shape (back in 2016), it felt a little strange, like it wasn’t me, like it wasn’t my real body. Like, I’ve always been overweight, not a muscular, thin person. So, having a muscular, thin body was strange to me. It wasn’t normal. It was something that constantly surprised me.
So I’m trying, this time, to also shift my identity, from someone that is always slightly overweight to someone that is thin, fit, active, etc.
Our recent trip to the Carpathians Mtns helped me with this– it was fun being able to climb steep mountains and feel myself in good physical shape.
So I’m trying mentally to shift my image of myself–that Anne is a middle-age, super-in-shape homeschooling mom. 🙂
Being married to Vitaliy helps, as he is very active and has been from youth. He’s always taking us on active outings.
So anyway, this is one of my current threads in life.
I’m reading Atomic Habits, and this is exactly how he says to build good habits. It’s better to make changes from our identity up, rather than from surface benefits down, i.e. I exercise because I’m a healthy person, not because exercise would be good for me.